When Everything Goes Wrong
Have you ever had one of those days, weeks, months or even years when it seems like everything goes wrong? You feel as though you will never reach a breakthrough and get to where you would like.
This happens at one time or another to all of us. In fact, it may happen several times in your lifetime. You may experience illness, financial hardship, relational difficulties, struggles with how you view yourself personally and the list could go on and on.
Here’s the good news: It will get better. This happens to all of us.
Here’s the not so good news: You have to get through it first.
If you are experiencing a really hard season in life, here are some things that may help you as you walk through it:
1. Remember that you will get your joy back. It may seem lost to you now, but you will find it again.
2. Seek support. Don’t hide it all away. Be cautious in who you confide in but don’t be so afraid of being vulnerable that you never seek help. Find a close friend, family member, pastor or professional counselor to help you through this tough season.
3. Be advised that there is a fine line between being a complainer and legitimately needing help. Don’t wear your best friends and family members out. If it gets to the point that you are leaning on them too much, you need to find professional help instead.
4. Go out of your way to find things you enjoy. Even take time to enjoy the small things in life. Stop and admire the flowers. Pick up a book that you used to love. Even the small, insignificant things can bring some positivity back into your life.
5. Treat yourself. Yes, you read that correctly – Treat yourself! It is okay to spend a little money on yourself once in awhile. For some it may be a small amount, others more. But regardless, it is okay to treat yourself to something fun or relaxing. Give yourself permission to do this occasionally.
6. If you absolutely cannot treat yourself, then get creative! Call the hair salon/restaurant/theater that you would like to visit and tell them you would love to go but cannot afford their rate and ask if they could do better. You just never know – they might give you a reduced rate, have a special coming up or just give you complimentary tickets!
7. Ask for the help you need. Tell your husband that you really need some time to yourself and see what he can arrange. Ask your best friend or sister if they can help you out for a week or so because you are really struggling. Be clear and direct on what you need to get help. Subtle hints will not work. Dropping huge hints may not even work. Just be direct and have a specific request. If we never ask we will never know what help we might have available to us. Do not assume others know what you need.
8. Be grateful. Sometimes just being grateful for what you do have is enough to help change your mindset. Your house may be a disaster and the kids running wild, but you have a home and a family, do you not? You may not like that the car broke down but be thankful you have good neighbors and friends who will be happy to give you a ride occasionally. It’s all in your perspective sometimes.
This list is not to make light of huge burdens some may be carrying. We can only imagine what awful things others may be experiencing.
But just as an example I will share my latest plight: Just these past few months I have had to resign a position, moved three times, experienced significant health struggles, struggled with relationships, had family members with failing health, discovered my car has a major issue and the list goes on and on.
Through it all I keep trying to remind myself that there has to be a bigger plan in all this chaos. When life seems to be falling apart, God is putting things back together in a better way, right?
I had one day in particular where everything seemed to be going wrong all at once. While the kind gentleman at the car repair shop was patiently explaining to me what was going wrong with my car, (I had the hardest time not laughing at what he had to say), I was just thinking to myself how this was nearly comical! It was just one thing after another!
Then I just gave up. Very clearly in my mind I just thought “Okay, God. I give up. Obviously, You are not allowing anything to work out the way that I think it should be worked out. I am not going to try to take care of this anymore. It is all You now.”
Sometimes I think that is all God really wants from us. He just wants us to depend on Him.
In the Bible it talks about a Father who relates to us as His children. No, it does not solve or explain away all our problems, but it does make sense that through all the chaos of this crazy, broken, sin filled world He would want us to lean on Him and allow Him to develop our relationship with Him!
So I would challenge you to use some of these tips to help walk yourself through the hard season, but even more so I challenge you to allow God to have a relationship with you.
1. Tell God what you think and feel.
2. Read your favorite Bible verses and see how you can apply them to your life. Or dig deeper into your Bible and see how God has used hard circumstances to build relationship with His children.
Despite the hard times God has a plan for your life and I hope that you can hold onto that truth while you walk through the difficult season.
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”
❤️❤️This was written by a Rural Sister who wishes to remain anonymous at this time! ❤️❤️