To My Love,
?Happy days after Valentine’s Day! ? Valentine’s day is always fun, but in truth I find it more important to show and be shown love the other 364 days of the year. I know you feel the same way!
That started me thinking…
We have a unique situation. We spend a lot of time together because of our agricultural lifestyle. This fact does not give either of us an easy out. In fact it means that we have to work harder to deliberately show love instead of just get through the days together.
I also realize that if you were to take tips from other couples in different situations it might be near impossible or at least very intimidating to ensure that you show love to me.
As you know, I am not your usual gal. I’m not high maintenance and don’t need amazing, fancy things. In fact, I think the more simple the gift the more thoughtful it can be!
Remember how you bring me sweet peas from the field in the spring? I love those so much more than any roses you could buy! I love how you tolerate my inner, horse-crazy girl. I know it may seem silly at times, but I know that you see how it makes me happy. I’m grateful that you are concerned with and invested in seeing your wife happy. ?
I know during the busiest seasons, we are like ships passing in the night, working “together”, but usually in different pieces of equipment; working towards the same goal, but completing different steps of the mission. It’s during those times, that your sweet, gentle affection helps ground me and remind me of your love. I appreciate when you ease my load by suggesting that I just pick up pizza for supper while I’m on a parts run in town. Sometimes, I just need a little nudge or permission to make things a bit easier on myself. ?
Do you remember the other day when you told the brand inspector that he just had to stay a bit longer “because she makes the best cinnamon rolls“? That meant the world to me. It showed me that you appreciate the effort I put into even the little things. I am so grateful that we can approach the Throne of Grace together in prayer. We are unified in the most important thing, our faith. I love holding your hand whenever possible. Going out with you simply to watch the sunset is so romantic! ?
We are a team. We see each other as equal partners in our marriage. I love that we have that understanding! I’m glad you don’t “treat me like a girl”, giving me less important or challenging things just because of my gender. But I also love that you remember I am a lady and treat me with respect! ?
I love that you remember that I like to drive the tractor as much as you do and are willing to hand over the wheel occasionally! Even better is when you let me drive the tractor or pick up and you open gates!! Honey, you are speaking my love language!! ?
I know many farm and ranch couples tease about not making any marital decisions after working cows together, but after the job is done and we’re headed back to the house, your “Thank you” and “I love you” make any disagreement or frustration with each other disappear. ?
The lifestyle and livelihood we chose is tough. There are many aspects to it, that are out of our control. I’m so grateful that we have both chosen to make a priority of our love. take responsibility for how we interact with each other and move forward together in life as an amazing team. I would have it no other way!
With all my love!
This post was written by myself with assistance from the ladies pictured with their Loves! Jessica Nickels, Malia Mount, Mandy Miller, Kacey Green, and Nichole Neubauer! We had been discussing what tips we would offer for dating a Farm Wife during the weekly Rural Sister’s Coffee Chat! From there those tips became a love letter for our Loves! These ladies are also a part of the Wholehearted Rural Sister’s Community, where they are an integral part of providing support, encouragement and insight to other women in agriculture and to each other! I am blessed to be able to call them friends.